You’re holding it all together. But who’s holding you?
You’ve shown up for the person you love in ways you never imagined. Through trauma, illness, addiction, or loss — you’ve stayed steady. But being the strong one can take its toll.
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I’m Lois Jackson — trauma-informed life coach, Co-Founder of Millimetres 2 Mountains, and someone who’s been in your shoes. I help supporters, carers, and partners rebuild their strength, reconnect with themselves, and navigate life alongside the people they love.
My Story
In 2017 change was forced upon me when my fiancé Ed suffered a spinal cord injury leaving him paralysed from below the shoulders and our lives were seemingly turned upside down. This initially traumatic experience and the subsequent journey that we have been on has taught me so much. It taught me resilience, it taught me gratitude but most importantly it taught me how to be my true self again.
How can I help?
You're not selfish for needing support
You’re human. And supporting someone through trauma doesn’t mean you should lose yourself in the process. If you’re feeling burnt out, lost, stuck in guilt, or unsure how to set boundaries you're in the right place.
What support do I offer?
✔ One-to-one coaching for individuals who support others
✔ Coaching for couples navigating trauma or working together
✔ Guidance on boundaries, communication, identity, and emotional resilience
Why?
This work is personal for me. I’ve supported a husband through paralysis, my parents through turmoil and hundreds of people & their families through my charity M2M. I know what it’s like to forget who you are while holding someone else up. This space is where you remember yourself again.
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'It's not about me', I found myself saying this all the time during Ed's recovery. When your partner or loved one is facing adversity, not only do you not have time to concentrate on yourself but you also have the guilt for focusing on you, when it should be about them. I want to change that. In order for your loved ones to be progressing then you need to be happy. I want to help you live a balanced life, help you understand what you want and allow you to be in the best possible place in order to be there for your loved ones. It can be really difficult to know what to say and have those tough conversations but there is a way to communicate effectively and I can help you understand how.
